1. A red flag is rarely about a specific action; it is more often about your inner reaction. You feel tension, tightness, a need to justify words or behavior. The psyche reacts faster than logic and notices a mismatch before explanations appear. At that point, the signal has already been received; it just has not been named yet. 2. Most red flags do not look like obvious aggression but like instability. Today there is warmth and involvement, tomorrow coldness and disappearing without reasons. Th